How do you know when enough is enough?

Anyone...anyone...

I wish I knew. If you figure it out... please let me know!

You betcha. Though, based on my track record and the status quo, it may be a while before I respond to you on this matter.

But, I'll keep you posted...

You just know. My ill fated sham of marriage is over. Saying it out loud and over and over is hard. However, I feel like a weight has been lifted at the same time. Sure people are angry and hurt. I am sad, and cry most of the time. I just have to pray that I don't die alone. But, then again, I was married and more alone. So, my question is, once it is over, is it wrong to feel relieved?

EngineGirl22 wrote:You just know. My ill fated sham of marriage is over. Saying it out loud and over and over is hard. However, I feel like a weight has been lifted at the same time. Sure people are angry and hurt. I am sad, and cry most of the time. I just have to pray that I don't die alone. But, then again, I was married and more alone. So, my question is, once it is over, is it wrong to feel relieved?

Absolutely not. I feel relief in just thinking about leaving sometimes...

Wrong to be relieved??? NOT!

If you are- you are...it must mean you did the right thing. It is sad to have a relationship come to an end...and the way we are wired, we begin to remember the good things and the bad often fades...butif we are not happy- it isnt good.

My only thought is try and work on the things that made you unhappy so you do not allow them to repeat themselves in the next relationship. Having it all happen without learning from it...now that would be a waste.

Wow, LonelyGirl, that is a really impressive, awesome response. I agree wholeheartedly.